"But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?"
…the function of man is to live a certain kind of life, and this activity implies a rational principle, and the function of a good man is the good and noble performance of these, and if any action is well performed it is performed in accord with the appropriate excellence: if this is the case, then happiness turns out to be an activity of the soul in accordance with virtue.."
Day 1 - What is Happiness
Welcome to 30 Days to Happiness, actually, 30 Days to the Secrets to Happiness. As always, to accomplish this goal, you are required to dedicate yourself to the program 100%. You must make a commitment to stick it through to the end, no matter how many challenges you may hit along the way. Make a commitment today that you will open every email., read each lesson and do every exercise with dedication every day. As with any endeavor, the qualities of commitment, dedication and follow-through are important qualities to creating success no matter what the goal.
In this program, we are seeking happiness - an intangible, illusive goal. How do you know if you succeed? Obviously, it is your personal experience based solely on feeling and the beliefs and conclusions you have made from past experiences. Happiness, as you already know, has nothing to do with things or circumstances, but is an internal energy. Experts say that happiness is a state of satisfaction and fulfillment. According to Happiness International, happiness is:
A feeling of contentment - that life is just as it should be.
Perfect happiness comes when all of your needs are fulfilled.
Obviously, if you follow this definition, then you need to also define needs. You already know a basic instinct inherent in al living things is the fight and flight impluse. But can you say that if you are living in a safe, environment that doesn't require either fighitng or running away, that happiness is there? Happiness clearly is subjective.
According to behaviorialists, happiness is a mixture of emotions that occur when you succeed at doing something. Neuro-scientists say it is a blend and mixture of hormones and electrical impulses and philosophers debate on whether happiness is an ongoing journey or is the destination itself. In fact, happiness is all of these things, but beccause it is so personal and so subjective, you can't really measure it in someone else, but you do know when it is available in you. Happiness results in a smile on your face, a sense of peace and pleasure, often a warmth in your heart. But what is it that puts a smile on your face and a warmth in your heart? What is it that brings both peace and pleasure?
Happiness is ultimately available to everyone but, as it is with everything in life, the beliefs you hold and the lessons you learned growing up are a huge factor in how successful you will be in finding happiness and, in particular, in holding it.
As a child, happiness was simple in that your desires and needs were simple. As an infant, you wanted basic things such as food, comfort and love. These needs do not change as you get older, but the things in life that fulfill such needs, become more sophisticated and are more complex. You still want, food, comfort and love, but your tastes in food change from mother's milk for example to a soft drink or a glass of wine. Comfort changes from a warm blanket to a beautiful home on a large lot or on a mountain top with a view. Love changes from being held and cuddled by mother to being accepted by peers, approved by mentors and admired and desired emotionally by a signiticant other.
As you grow older, the experiences you associate with happiness continue to change. You may have begun experimenting with halucinogenic drugs, started drinking alcohol and driving fast cars. Your experimenting may have involved new experiences and sensations such as wild parties and sexual experimentation. In adolescence, the memories are often of crazy, loud and boisterous activities. But are such activities, the basis of happiness?
In the days that follow, we will be exploring the beliefs you have formed about what happiness is and what it is not. What did you learn about happiness as a child? What were you taught by your parents and caregivers? What beliefs did you form as a result of those early experiences of what happiness is and of what is available to you?
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Take a look at the quiz below and answer the questions as honestly as possible. This is a quiz that is solely for you as you delve deeper into your personal code of happiness. Though there may be days when you can say you are happy and other days when you are not, happiness isn't a partial feeling. It is something that you have or your don't and when you don't you know it. The goal is to discover where you are currently getting satisfaction and where you are not so that, the happiness you have is continually maintained and the places where happiness is lacking or weak can be forged.
1. How would you rate your health?
a. very healthy
b. not completely satisfied
c. sick more than I like
d. lots of ongoing health problems
2. Describe your current level of financial comfort:
a. financially secure
b. live within my means
c. my money situation is uncomfortable
d. stressed about it pretty regularly.
3. Rate your current level of self-esteem
a. I genuinely like myself
b. could be higher I don't believe in myself enough
c. often angry and upset with myself
4. Do you know and like your neighbors?
a. I am very friendly with several of my neighbors
b. I know a few of them and often stop and chat
b. I don't really know any of them but wave as I pass
c. I avoid my neighbors and keep to myself.
5. How often are you able to express your creativity?
a. I do something creative every day.
b. I have opportunities to be creative several times a week
c. I have creative hobbies that I'm able to do monthly
d. My life is lacking any creative expression.
6. How often do you expand your skills and knowledge?
a. I'm always striving to learn and develop new skills.
b. I usually read the same books and materials over & over
c. I not motivated to learn anything new
d. I feel stuck and unable to move
7. What is your current level of satisfaction in family relationships?
a. I have a very loving, supportive family
b. There are a few people n my family that are great
c. My family relationships aren't supportive and cause significant stress.
d. I am dissassociated from family completely.
8. How much love do you have in your life?
a. I have lots of love around me all the time.
b. Love comes and goes, but what I do have is great
c. Love is inadequate and barely present in my life.
d. I can't remember the last time I felt loved.
9. How well does your life reflect your values and spiritual beliefs?
a. I live a well-examined life following my personal and spiritual beliefs.
b. I'm not living my ideal life, but try to improve daily.
c. I just do what I have to do to get through the day.
d. I am often depressed as my life is not at all what I want it to be
10. How often do you do the things you love to do?
a. I am very fortunate in that I am able to daily do what I love.
b. I find time each month to do some of the things I love to do.
c. I am too busy doing what I have to do to have time for frivolous things.
d. I gave up being able to do the things I love a long time ago.
11. Do you like the work you do?
a. Yes, my work fulfills me.
b. I don't always love what I do, but I'm getting there.
c. I have to do work that I don't enjoy, and do things I love on the side.
d. I hate the work I do but I have no choice. I need the money.
12. How comfortable is your home environment?
a. My home is a safe, relaxing haven that I enjoy.
b. I get stressed with all the clutter and things that need to get done.
c. I have little interest in my home. It's just a place to sleep.
d. My home is a stressful and disorganized place that I do not enjoy.
13. How supportive and reliable are your friends?
a. I have true friends who are always there for me if I need them.
b. I have people in my life but no one I can really count on.
c. I have people who I support, but they are rarely there for me.
d. I don't have any friends.
14. Do you have hobbies or things you do just for fun?
a. Yes, I actively pursue one or more things that I really enjoy.
b. Occasionally, I'll do something just for fun.
c. I rarely have time for fun things.
d. I never do anything just for the fun of it.
15. Do you have a group or church that provides you a sense of community?
a. I have a group that provides me a sense of belonging and community.
b. I have a group that I belong to but I often feel like an outsider.
c. I don't really have any group or place where I feel a sense of community.
d. I don't feel I belong to anywhere on any basis.
16. Do you feel you provide help or assistance to others that makes a difference?
a. I often provide assistance and acts of kindness to others.
b. I am sometmes able to help others and wish I could do more.
c. I only offer assistance if I have to.
d. I don't have anything I can offer to others.
17. Do you have a loving, supportive relationship?
a. I am very happy in a supportive, loving relationship.
b. I am in a long term relationship, but it is not what I want
c. I long for a relationship that is truly loving.
d. I gave up on a loving relationship a long time ago.
18. How much physical exercise do you get per week?
a. I regularly pursue something physical every day.
b. I do physical exercise at least weekly.
c. I only get physical exercise when pushed to do it.
d. I'm a couch potato and don't get physical at all any more.
19. How successful are you in making dreams come true?
a. I am always dreaming new dreams because I succeed in fulfilling the old ones.
b. I have lots of dreams but achieving them is often a struggle.
c. I forgot to dream along time ago.
d. I gave up on dreams cause they never happen.
20. How connected do you feel to your Spirituality and guides and guardians?
a. I have a rich and ripe spirituality, feeling love everywhere I turn.
b. I am devoted to growing and learning but don't feel as connected or loved as I wish.
c. I wish I had a spiritual connection but often feel lost and cut off
d. I gave up on spiritiaulty a long time ago cause no one is there for me anyhow.
EXERCISE I - What is Happiness?
1. What memories do you have about your mother and her being happy? Write out any and every incident you can remember when you experienced your mother was in a good mood or feeling happy.
2. What memories do you have about your father and him being happy? Write out any and every incident you can remember when you experienced your father in a good mood or feeling happy.
3. Evaluate your relationship with mother and then with father. How do you think those relationships affected your decision about what you deserve? Were there any angers or hurts that you failed to address as a child that you may have converted into a decision that you don't deserve?
2. What messages do you recall receiving as a child about happiness? Look for messages from parents or caregivers where you were told things like: "You don't deserve to have nice things." "What makes you think you deserve to have something for nothing?" "People who aren't nice, don't deserve to be rich!" "Rich people aren't happy." "Happiness is a myth" Or, "Because you worked so hard, you deserve a special treat."
3. Find the beginning of when you first felt undeserving. Where did it start? How did it start?
4. Write a paragraph or 2 on what happiness means to you.
Write answers to these questions in your ACTION & INTENTION JOURNAL.
DAILY REMINDER: Watch for daily emails with exercises and meditations. Click here to download a page of your ACTION AND INTENTION JOURNAL and write down everything you did today, including the times that you read your "Statement of Desire", when you did each visualization and meditation as well as any discoveries or thoughts you have had regarding your "money resonance." What else have you done towards a resonance shift in the way you feel about money? Write it down.