"But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads?"
…the function of man is to live a certain kind of life, and this activity implies a rational principle, and the function of a good man is the good and noble performance of these, and if any action is well performed it is performed in accord with the appropriate excellence: if this is the case, then happiness turns out to be an activity of the soul in accordance with virtue.."
Day 2 - What is Happiness
Did you complete the quiz on Day 1 and, if so, what did you discover?
Today we are going to work more with specific goals you can set that will lead you to happiness. The bulk of such goals are the fulfillment of needs. Psychologists say that everyone is in search of happiness, but they also say that everyone has some level of happiness. We've entitled this course, "Secrets to Happiness" because it is designed to discover your secrets to getting where you ultimately want to go - to a wonderful life where happiness is superb. But before we delve any further, perhaps we should get a good solid definition of what we are seeking. In other words, what is happiness and, more importantly, what is your current level of happiness so that you know what you have and what you'd like to change. As we defined yesterday, "happiness if when your life fulfills your needs."
This makes sense because we are talking about seeking it as a steady, continuous flow of "well being and contentment" and if we are meeting our basic needs. then certainly we are well on our way to accomplishing this goal. So what are our basic needs? According to Abraham Maaslow, human motivation is based on people seeking fulfillment and change through personal growth. Self-actualized people are those who are fulfilled because they are doing all they were capable of doing. Maslow develope a hierarchy of needs based on what he calls an inherent need to become self-actualized by fulfilling each of the following needs:
1. Physical needs: air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep, etc.
2. Security: physical, job, financial, relationship, health, order, stability;
3. Belonging: love, friendship, significant relationships, intimate relationships, affection,
4. Esteem: self esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, prestige
5. cognitive needs: knowledge, meaning
6. aesthetic needs, search for beauty, balance
7. self-actualized: realizing person potential, self-fulfillment, personal growth, peak experiences.
According to Maslow, as human beings we are continuously seeking fulfillment of these needs, reaching for the highest eshelon on this hierarchy of self-actualization or, for our purposes, achieving continuous happiness.
If Maslow is correct, we are all seeking to fulfil these needs. The more successful we are at this task, the happier we are and will become.
So lets take the time to evaluate your current level of fulfillment through the following quiz. where are you on this hierarchy of fulfilling needs? In other words, how happy are you?
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Take a look at the quiz below and answer the questions as honestly as possible. This is a quiz that is solely for you as you delve deeper into your personal code of happiness. Though there may be days when you can say you are happy and other days when you are not, happiness isn't a partial feeling. It is something that you have or your don't and when you don't you know it. The goal is to discover where you are currently getting satisfaction and where you are not so that, the happiness you have is continually maintained and the places where happiness is lacking or weak can be forged.
1. How would you rate your health?
a. very healthy
b. not completely satisfied
c. sick more than I like
d. lots of ongoing health problems
2. Describe your current level of financial comfort:
a. financially secure
b. live within my means
c. my money situation is uncomfortable
d. stressed about it pretty regularly.
3. Rate your current level of self-esteem
a. I genuinely like myself
b. could be higher I don't believe in myself enough
c. often angry and upset with myself
4. Do you know and like your neighbors?
a. I am very friendly with several of my neighbors
b. I know a few of them and often stop and chat
b. I don't really know any of them but wave as I pass
c. I avoid my neighbors and keep to myself.
5. How often are you able to express your creativity?
a. I do something creative every day.
b. I have opportunities to be creative several times a week
c. I have creative hobbies that I'm able to do monthly
d. My life is lacking any creative expression.
6. How often do you expand your skills and knowledge?
a. I'm always striving to learn and develop new skills.
b. I usually read the same books and materials over & over
c. I not motivated to learn anything new
d. I feel stuck and unable to move
7. What is your current level of satisfaction in family relationships?
a. I have a very loving, supportive family
b. There are a few people n my family that are great
c. My family relationships aren't supportive and cause significant stress.
d. I am dissassociated from family completely.
8. How much love do you have in your life?
a. I have lots of love around me all the time.
b. Love comes and goes, but what I do have is great
c. Love is inadequate and barely present in my life.
d. I can't remember the last time I felt loved.
9. How will does your life reflect your values and spiritual beliefs.
a. I live a well-examined life following my personal and spiritual beliefs.
b. I'm not living my ideal life, but try to improve daily.
c. I just do what I have to do to get through the day.
d. I am often depressed as my life is not at all what I want it to be
10. How often do you do the things you love to do?
a. I am very fortunate in that I am able to daily do what I love.
b. I find time each month to do some of the things I love to do.
c. I am too busy doing what I have to do to have time for frivolous things.
d. I gave up being able to do the things I love a long time ago.
11. Do you like the work you do?
a. Yes, my work fulfills me.
b. I don't always love what I do, but I'm getting there.
c. I have to do work that I don't enjoy, and do things I love on the side.
d. I hate the work I do but I have no choice. I need the money.
12. How comfortable is your home environment?
a. My home is a safe, relaxing haven that I enjoy.
b. I get stressed with all the clutter and things that need to get done.
c. I have little interest in my home. It's just a place to sleep.
d. My home is a stressful and disorganized place that I do not enjoy.
13. How supportive and reliable are your friends?
a. I have true friends who are always there for me if I need them.
b. I have people in my life but no one I can really count on.
c. I have people who I support, but they are rarely there for me.
d. I don't have any friends.
14. Do you have hobbies or things you do just for fun?
a. Yes, I actively pursue one or more things that I really enjoy.
b. Occasionally, I'll do something just for fun.
c. I rarely have time for fun things.
d. I never do anything just for the fun of it.
15. Do you have a group or church that provides you a sense of community?
a. I have a group that provides me a sense of belonging and community.
b. I have a group that I belong to but I often feel like an outsider.
c. I don't really have any group or place where I feel a sense of community.
d. I don't feel I belong to anywhere on any basis.
16. Do you feel you provide help or assistance to others that makes a difference?
a. I often provide assistance and acts of kindness to others.
b. I am sometmes able to help others and wish I could do more.
c. I only offer assistance if I have to.
d. I don't have anything I can offer to others.
17. Do you have a loving, supportive relationship?
a. I am very happy in a supportive, loving relationship.
b. I am in a long term relationship, but it is not what I want
c. I long for a relationship that is truly loving.
d. I gave up on a loving relationship a long time ago.
18. How much physical exercise do you get per week?
a. I regularly pursue something physical every day.
b. I do physical exercise at least weekly.
c. I only get physical exercise when pushed to do it.
d. I'm a couch potato and don't get physical at all any more.
EXERCISE I - What is Happiness?
1. What messages do you recall receiving as a child about happiness? Look for messages from parents or caregivers where you were told things like: "You don't deserve to have nice things." "What makes you think you deserve to have something for nothing?" "People who aren't nice, don't deserve to be rich!" Or, "Because you worked so hard, you deserve a special treat."
2. Find the beginning of when you first felt undeserving. Where did it start? How did it start?
3. Evaluate your relationship with mother and then with father. How do you think those relationships affected your decision about what you deserve? Were there any angers or hurts that you failed to address as a child that you may have converted into a decision that you don't deserve?
Write answers to these questions in your ACTION & INTENTION JOURNAL.
DAILY REMINDER: Watch for daily emails with exercises and meditations. Click here to download a page of your ACTION AND INTENTION JOURNAL and write down everything you did today, including the times that you read your "Statement of Desire", when you did each visualization and meditation as well as any discoveries or thoughts you have had regarding your "money resonance." What else have you done towards a resonance shift in the way you feel about money? Write it down.